Justice in every way

images-1Tim and I were invited to join the Vineyard Justice Conference in Anaheim last week. What an amazing experience. Our hearts beat for certain things and it came together so well during the conference and the people we met. I am still not sure how these certain things will play out in our life but God is certainly painting a picture.
 
I have written before how we desire to not live for ourselves. How we want to look around and care; with our time, our finances and choices. And as God is painting the how in our life, I was challenged last week.
 
We were given a coach during the conference. Someone we met with each day. Our coach Rose Swetman spoke about having an eye for the personal, the local, and the global needs in God’s Kingdom.
 
3 circlesI think Tim and I have the personal aspect down pretty well. We serve one another first and fore most, before serving anyone or anything else. We have an eye for our neighbor and often reach out, even in the littlest, but oh so important, of ways. We want to be of service to our church community and have started that conversation with our church and beautiful things are unfolding. The global aspect is a clear one to most of the people around us. It is very clear we desire to serve globally and want to have an impact in the lives of people who have little in the developing world.
 
At times I feel I have not enough time to do what I want to do in those areas, so when I was challenged to talk about how we seek to live for others locally, I drew a blank. This is the piece I have been wondering about… am I to serve locally when I am already short on time and doing so much? We still have to work hard to get food on the table as we try to live a life style of service.
 
I am very curious to what picture God is painting with our life. Is He challenging our life style? For if we want to live a life of service and seeing, will the hours in a day really matter? We seek to see and love… and what if all of us cover all three areas: seeing and loving in the personal circle, the local circle and global circle… would God’s painting of the world not look a whole lot different?
 
 
 
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5 Minute Friday… New

Writing under pressure… It is very simple, on Thursday evening a word prompt is shared by Kate and on Friday we give ourselves 5 minutes to write.
5 minutes!!  And without a grammar check or editing we post whatever came to our creative minds…
 
This week’s word is NEW…
 
Ready… Set… Go…
 
MaddyChristine Hope Photography-3987.LThis week Jesus met me at the cross, in a new way.  Very unexpectedly.  Sure my Father had been telling me He was doing a new thing.  I was to enter into a new season of healing of which He has been showing me, is going to be different from all other seasons of healing I went through.  It is going to be deeper and it is not by my doing.  My Father has told me to walk and just show up…
 
I went to church Tuesday evening, to show up… Jesus had a plan for me.  I will spare you the details for now but Jesus took me personally to the cross.  
 
When Jesus hung at the cross and seemed to have died, people wanted to be sure.  And so they took a spear and poked it right into his side.  He didn’t budge and they knew He was ‘gone’.  
 
When I was crying out all my wounds on Tuesday: father wounds, rejection wounds, incest wounds, you name it wounds… I finally landed at mother wounds.  I have never really thought about me having mother wounds because wasn’t it my dad who abused me?  And God showed me that I had wounds way before I was ever abused, mother wounds.  At some point I was asked where Jesus was when I was being abused.  And I said: “He just stood there.  He did nothing!” and I sobbed.  My hands were pulled out in front of me by the pastor… would I fill my hands with my mother wounds, with my rejection wounds?  Would I walk to the cross and stick it right into Jesus’ bleeding heart?  Right there, where it belongs.  Right there… that is why Jesus died.  For my wounds, my aches, my hurts.  I am not alone.  He has felt it all.  He knows.  And right there, He shows me He never ‘just stood there and did nothing’.  THIS is what He is doing at the cross.  And I understood.  I felt it.  And I will never look the same at the cross.  Jesus took me to the cross and let me feel it.  My Heavenly Father, although it looked horrible, loved on me in a very sweet way.  
 
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What I do…

Tim was away last week.  Just a few days.  And in the past I would always tell him how I’d miss him.  But not this time.  This time I noticed how happy I was those days alone.  This time I noticed how great it felt to have the bed to myself.  This time I didn’t miss the hugs at night.  It was a nice alone time.  And it reminded me of my single years.  Deciding about schedule and when to eat was so easy.  I just had me to think about.  And it felt like a little break.
 
But I was also worried.  Tim was worried.  Because I have been pulling back little by little.  No more nakedness in bed.  No hugs.  Not my hand on his leg while in the car.  Not me reaching out to touch him, not even after Tim being away for a few days.  It was all different.
 
And I wake up to what is happening.  The intimacy between Tim and me, as husband and wife, goes very deep and my system is going off.  There are too many memories of hurt.  I want to protect myself.  And the way to do that is to get away, physically and now also emotionally.
 
But this is good.  This is very good!  My systems are reaching the surface and I am aware.  This is not a danger to our marriage… it is a red flag about my wounds.
 
MaddyChristine Hope Photography-2-2And in this new season of healing through Living Waters I reach out to my Heavenly Father.  I experience myself to be little in this.  I am aware that I cannot heal myself and I stick to my Heavenly Father.  I press in, and I wait for healing.  I wait for Him to do His work.  In what way?  I don’t know.  When?  I don’t know.  All I am asked is to keep walking and keep showing up.
 
These days aren’t easy.  We are dealing with trauma.  But I celebrate that we are well.  We both are very committed, we communicate honestly about how this season affects us.  We stay connected and we are one.  Tim loves me so well by being so very patient.  I can tell his commitment.  It may be rough now… but we will write this chapter.  And we will close this chapter.  And write another one…
 
 
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Peace that surpasses understanding

MaddyChristine Hope Photography-0842.LThe weather is so perfect, I can’t even feel it.  
Your presence so soft, yet strong.
You invite me to just sit with you.  
I don’t think you have anything in particular in mind. There is nothing specific you want to say.
You just invite me to get away from routine, and be…
It’s empty, it’s still, yet there is nothing wrong with this emptyness.
And I surrender.
As I wonder about things, as I am consumed by things, I surrender.
I find rest in You because You have it all.
There are big decisions to be made, there are big things to happen when I do not see anything happening yet,
and I do not need to be anxious.
There is peace and confidence in You.  Peace that surpasses understanding.
 
 
Do not be anxious about anything, but in EVERY SITUATION, by prayer and petition, WITH THANKSGIVING, present your request to God.  And the peace of God, which SURPASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING, will guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6~7
 
 
Tim and I have suffered loss the past months.  Where we see marriages fail over this, we carry a peace we are grateful for, but do not comprehend. It is God. We are presented with some big life decisions, decisions that I feel are too big for me to make.  And I let go completely, being not invested in the outcome because it really doesn’t matter, God has it all.  
 
Today I’d like to encourage you to sit with God until you grasp that peace that surpasses all understanding.  I am not kidding when I say Tim and I are dealing with big stuff.  Stuff that has hurt and yet… we ARE VERY WELL.  We can only be well in these overwhelming circumstances because God is God!  So whatever you are dealing with, whatever is on your plate, God invites you to come sit with Him… He can give you peace!!
 
 
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Please give me some alone time

Screen Shot 2012-11-30 at 11.34.33 AMI had a ‘breakdown’ in August.  I was tired.  Oh so tired.  And I just wanted some alone time.  And with that comes the realization that what I go through, Tim goes through.  And I can imagine that at times, it really isn’t easy for him. To have a wife who doesn’t sleep (it’s gotten better 😉 ), to have a wife who goes through emotional roller coasters, to have a wife who is not always physically well.  And the fact that I influence Tim with my ‘things’  weighs heavy on me at times.  So I didn’t just want a break for myself, I wanted a break for Tim.  And we had the perfect circumstances to do just that.  The day before we were to house sit I cried and I found Tim: “Would you consider having a conversation with me about maybe going our separate ways for a few days?  You can maybe have the house with the pool and have fun with friends while I just rest at home?”  
 
Tim’s response was not what I had expected at all.  I had hit rock bottom and I thought he would taste my heart.  I thought he would be very compassionate of me needing to just ‘be’ and rest… without it influencing him.  I know he loves to go out, be with people and enjoy summer fun.  I just needed to be in bed and read.  I thought this was a way of taking care of both of us.  
 
Tim was compassionate for sure, just not the way I had anticipated…
He said: “You are married now.  We are married now.  Living apart for a week is just not an option.  It just isn’t right.” 
 
And he gave me the greatest gift ever!  He grabbed his wedding vows and started reading…
 
Maddy I promise to lead you, by God’s grace, providing for the physical, spiritual and emotional needs of you and our family…
“Did you hear that beautiful?  I promised to take care of your emotional needs too.  I can’t leave you for a week…”
 
He continued to read:
 
To be available to you and to be your rock, comforting you in times of sorrow and struggle…
To make you my first priority above all other things…
Maddy, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple and when it is an effort, extending grace to you at all times, for this is how God created you to be loved.  
 
And after that Tim said that maybe it is him who needs to learn.  Maybe it is not about me trying to be better when life gets hard, maybe it is not about me being so very tired and still wanting to be a good wife and serving Tim.  Maybe it is about him needing to learn how to handle it better.  
 
And I had instant relief.  His faithful care for me is IMPRESSIVE.  And at the same time I keep reminding him that it is okay to have faithful care for himself too.  He is learning that it is okay to go hang out with people, it is okay to have fun without me. Sometimes we just need different things.  
 
And the results were amazing.  We went house sitting.  He played in the pool with friends.  I got my rest.  I was honored.   And because of that I was able to hang out a lot more than I anticipated.  Being full of energy and so joyous over spending time with friends.  
 
Oh what the reminder of weddings vows can do!!
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Just a tiny little update…

MaddyChristine Hope Photography-2229.LGood morning… I wonder how many more times I get to sit here on our porch.  The mornings are getting chilly and there’s only so many sweaters I can put on.  But it is good to be back!
 
Last week I had a Dutch crew over for a TV program I have been working on for almost a year.  As expected it was a very full week with long days.  I missed my mornings with God on the porch.  But God was very present and the week could not have been more successful.  Of course I loved being in Amish country with my friends, which is where all this is supposed to take place.
 
Mornings on the porch are going to be absent for another week since Tim and I are taking dad to his home town, Madison Wisconsin.  For a while dad has expressed his desire to go back and see the farm he grew up on, his brother and other family members.  His health is not the best and this is the time to do it.  He asked us to take him and mom.  The travelers we are, we didn’t have to think long on this.  Besides, dad has added a stop along the way, a stop he is making for me.  We are going to visit Holland Michigan.  I have always wanted to go there and here’s my change.  I can’t wait.
 
Today I am trying to take it easy and rest a bit.  I am truly tired from last week’s hours and I have little writing inspiration.  So I’ll leave you with some photos from Amish country…
 
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